“Don’t involve children in your dating life until you’re relatively sure the person is a long-term keeper,” says Dr. “I suggest single moms wait six to 12 months—that’s typically how long the ‘honeymoon phase’ lasts.” Holding off until then is a good way to minimize the risk of your child getting attached too soon.
“Parents don’t always realize that when you go through a breakup, your child goes through it, too,” Dr. Silva says you should also consider how involved your partner will be willing to be after meeting your child.
And let’s not forget that I’m just a theme song word for word, but couldn’t for the life of me name ONE song from Kanye’s latest album. I mean, if I can manage to balance everything life throws my way while parenting an infant at my young age, I can certainly handle dating. Still, to sharpen my skills before heading into the trenches, I asked a few experts for advice on navigating the dating scene as a single 20-something mom. Sure, it used to seem like great fun to get tipsy and swipe right on potential hookups less than 10 miles away—20, if he or she is really hot—but apps like Tinder are more likely to land just that: A hookup and not a serious dating candidate.
“Swiping apps shouldn’t be your screening process for dates,” says Dr.
When you think of a single mom on the dating scene, visions of a 20-something who can barely balance her own checkbook (guilty) probably don’t come to mind.
But, believe it or not, not all of us single moms are recent divorcées scrolling through silver fox profiles on Match.
“Keep your blossoming relationship out of the eyes of ‘friends’ on social media,” she advises.(Unless, that is, you’re just looking for a hookup—even new moms need to blow off steam!) To be fair, not everyone I’ve met on a dating app or website turned out to be a catfish (or serial killer).Jenn Mann, host and lead psychotherapist of VH1’s “Couples Therapy with Dr.Jenn,” and author of For better results when checking out prospects online, “focus on characteristics, qualities, and life desires,” adds Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist, clinician and author of the relationship wellness blog, That means that if they didn’t bother to include those interests in their profile, they’re probably not worth a date.Of course, you can’t expect everyone you date to make a triple-digit income, or alleviate your own financial burdens.