If someone is new to a site, his or her profile is often featured in the community and the person becomes inundated with e-mails.So, assume that your interest hasn't had time to open your message.To do that, "talk about yourself in anecdotes," says Gonzaga.Instead of saying that you like to cook (which plenty of people will do), describe in detail what your favorite meal to make is.Make a Move In your initial e-mail to a potential partner, it's crucial to indicate that you've read his profile and took an interest in it.According to Ok Trends, the top three phrases in initial e-mails with the highest response rate are "you mention," "good taste" and "noticed that." So, describe something that resonated with you from his profile, advises Spira, but avoid physical compliments because "they seem too clichéd." And keep it brief: Ok Trends found that the ideal first message length is only 200 characters, or one minute's worth of typing for the average writer.It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!
The best thing you can do is be polite and keep the date short, says Spira. "You know he looks nothing like his photo; he knows he looks nothing like his photo. Becoming Exclusive Since being on an online dating site puts you out there for everyone to contact, it can be hard to know when you have become exclusive with a partner. If you broach the topic and he says that he isn't ready to pull down his profile, Spira recommends saying something like, "Well, I am. I guess I'll keep mine up as well and continue dating."9.But if there's silence after two e-mails, cut your losses and move on.6.Taking the Relationship Offline The time to take your relationship beyond the boundaries of the dating site will eventually come."It gives a richer picture of who you are," he adds.According to Spira, the tone should be uplifting and happy. "The problem is that because you don't hear people's voices, it's hard to tell if they're being sarcastic or being rude." If you write something and are afraid that it might be taken the wrong way, it's probably best not to post it.3.After that, have a phone conversation—trade cell phone numbers, never home numbers.