I believe that there are any number of people that we each could marry and make it work – and even be happy.
But I also believe that we will be happiest in marriage if we allow God to choose our mate for us.
I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.
I had to ask myself, “Is he really on the same page as me when it comes to my Christian faith?However, once I put God in charge of my love life, a funny thing happened.I began to see in Matt several of those “husband material traits” that I had been searching for with other guys.In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to.