This ties in to the rest of the following tips so pay attention.
It's very difficult for some people to say they have a mental illness, especially because of the stigma that's associated. If you don't understand your partner's mood pattern exactly, watch.
In relationships, mental illness can make things difficult, especially for those who are unsure of how to react in those types of situations. Being someone who has suffered from both anxiety and depression for years, I know how hard it can be and how much of a strain it can put on a romantic relationship.
Here are a few tips: This is most important, which is why it's number one.
Some will work at something that makes no money because they love it.
Some will work in an office even though they hate commuting and being around people.
They live in a town where all the factories have been shut down. And it’s perfectly fair for a man to choose a partner who is not depressed over a partner who is depressed.
They grew up in a broken family with no positive role models. We can go on and on about how unfair life is, but, hey, I didn’t write the rules. And as someone who really tried the patience of some well-meaning people when I was depressed and anxious, I can understand why someone wouldn’t want to get too emotionally invested in me.
Just because it's one of those days where they're sad, uninterested or anything along those lines, doesn't mean it's because of you or something you did.
You may wonder why I am not asking a therapist about this…This is because every therapist I’ve ever seen does not take my desire to date or find a partner seriously.
Every time I raise this issue in the therapist’s office, it gets dismissed. I’m really interested in getting your opinion on this whole complex issue. And not in some sort of vague, quasi-sympathetic way either.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck and hope that you get the help you need to one day have the relationship you desire.
Unfortunately, it's not uncommon to meet someone who has anxiety or depression; usually the two co-exist.