Often dating encourages intimacy for the sake of intimacy two people getting close to each other without any real intention of making a long-term commitment.Deepening intimacy without defining a level of commitment is plainly dangerous.We see the failed attempts around us, but we refuse to replace this cart called dating.We want to stay on the straight and narrow path and serve God, yet we continue a practice that often pull us in the wrong direction.First, never shop when youre hungry everything will look good and youll spend too much money. Ive got the first rule down, but I havent had much success with that second rule.
When I was a kid, my mom taught me two rules of grocery shopping.Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.The pastor telling the story saw both of them years later at a high school reunion. When I see him, I remember it all so vividly, Jenny cried. When I see her, the hurt comes back, he told his former youth pastor. When the youth minister had finished telling this story, you could have heard a pin drop. But he gave no alternative that afternoon, Evidently the pastor thought the couple's only mistake was giving in to temptation.Its like going mountain climbing with a partner who isnt sure that she wants the responsibility of holding your rope.When youve climbed two thousand feet up a mountain face, you dont want to have a conversation about how she feels tied down by your relationship.Every maneuver, from turning down the cereal aisle to gliding alongside the meat section, becomes a battle-the shoppers will pitted against the carts.